This post is about something important.
The importance of dating…
Yourself.
I’ve heard many a person say that the key to a happy and long-lasting relationship is to never stop dating the person you love. To always be swooning them, healing them, complimenting them, and getting to know them.
With this in mind, why wouldn’t a person want to date the one person who will always have to be around? Why wouldn’t you date yourself? Taking the time you have to get to know yourself, to be at peace and fall in love with yourself, or to let yourself heal?
I’m talking more than just taking a bubble bath to unwind (although, those are wonderful too). I’m talking about making yourself a delicious, decadent dinner for no other reason than you want to fill yourself with yumminess. I’m talking of going to the movies alone for no other reason than the movie intrigues you. I’m talking about going for a long walk by yourself because it just feels good for some reason and you can hear yourself think. I’m talking about buying yourself a new pair of jeans as a gift, wrapping them up, and then unwrapping them and then saying to yourself when you look in the mirror, “Damn! That ass is smokin’!”
Things that don’t make sense, that aren’t logical, but help you realize more about you. Things that make you feel awesome and loved. And help you become strong enough to be happy being alone with yourself.
Being alone is scary. There are people who hate being alone so much that they can’t walk into a store by themselves. Or people who won’t going inside McDonalds when they are alone.
I’m not one of these people (anymore). I’ve was forced to start dating myself about two years ago.
And it’s the best thing that’s ever been forced upon me.
It’s delicious.
I’ve learned more about myself in the last two years than I did in the previous 26. I know what I’m good at, I know what I suck at, and I also know I really friggen love myself (most days). Because I took the time to romance my spirit.
To love my soul.
To discover my quirks (and, um, there are a lot!).
To study my personal history.
And, until the day my “ohmyfuckingdearlord he is THE ONE” moment happens, I’ll continue to date myself.
Actually, never mind, I’ll still date myself then too.
Great post, Jaci! I completely agree. I used to be one of those people who wouldn't go somewhere alone, but then there were places I wanted to go and no one else was interested. I went anyway -- movies, baseball games, restaurants, plays, etc. I actually prefer doing some of these things solo sometimes. And I love to cook a good meal for myself too. Indeed, it's important that we spoil ourselves just like we would spoil any other loved one.
ReplyDeleteLoved this one! I've been re-discovering how much fun it is to get up and get dressed pretty every day, just to hang out with myself. The most important thing is to treat yourself like you matter. To wear the red boots and the big feather earrings just because you want to.
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